NONVIOLENT Communication:
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is sometimes referred to as compassionate communication. Its purpose is to strengthen our ability to inspire compassion and to respond compassionately to others and to ourselves. NVC guides us to re-frame how we express ourselves and hear others by focusing our consciousness on what we are observing, feeling, needing, and requesting. So we can say Nonviolent communication is an approach to communication based on principles of nonviolence. It is not a technique to end disagreements, but rather a method designed to increase empathy and improve the quality of life of those who utilize the method and the people around them.
Connecting to Compassion through NVC
Impact of non-violent communication
Effective communication are not always easy. There are some possibility and chances which is related with assumptions and misunderstandings than accurate and exact information with accurate explanation. NVC which provide us the essential and mandatory skills to co-operate with other in a more collaborative way and in semblance with our values. For overcoming upcoming possible conflicts and misunderstandings among people and society. It permits us to resolve or mend our emotional and rational conflicts. With this nonviolent communication, we can cast off more traditional forms of communication. compassionate communication sets out to help us practice active listening based on mutual understanding among us.
Positive Personality
According to theory assertive means delightful moderate among passivity and anxiousness. It is a efficiency which permits you to express someone’s opinions, honor or admire other people, and set borderlines. We can continue our practice to develop our relationships. One of the most common traits of assertive people is the affection they have for others fault. They don’t criticize or neglect them, or feel indifferent. On the contrary, they embrace them and try to understand them. Therefore, positive personality is an important impact if nonviolent communication.
Satisfying personal relationships:
NVC betting’s on the summary, precise and accurate expression of a message or information . Its aim is to develop understanding. That kind of expression leaves less room for criticism & more space for an effective exchange of messages. If we share your concerns in an assertive way, we are giving the other person the chance to understand & share them.
Problem resolution:
The important key to appropriate Nonviolent communication is to speak from our own perspective. That way nobody can argue with what you communicate. That is because the message that belongs to the one who is expressing it.
Morality:
We must have to learn how to say no directly and accept a negative answer or opinion . That is the only way to be keep morality in yourself and others. But to really be a master of nonviolent communication there is another step. You have to eliminate any kind of speculation or destructive communication behavior. An observation sets the context, feelings support connection and getting out of our heads, needs support connection and identify what is important, and a request clarifies what sort of response you might enjoy. If you use those components, you eliminate the probability of passing moral judgment. There are also so many NVC impacts in our life.
There are some examples discussed in below:
1. NVC in University:
A Professor uses NVC in her classroom. He has taught the skills to her students as well. A student in her class with behavioural difficulties has become increasingly frustrating for the teacher. This student becomes anxiousness when other students get too close to his desk and speak loudly. When the professor tell l him to use NVC, he stops, changes his posture and demeanour and said could you please move away from my desk I have sever headec for your loud speaking. I feel angry when you stand so close to me and your loud speaking helps to increase my headed. The other student responds in kind. Using NVC herself professor understand the unmet needs at the root of her frustration with the student. Spending so much time on behaviour management has stifled her sense of freedom and creativity in the classroom. Understanding this, she learns to respond to the student more effectively and compassionately.
2. NVC in medicine:
A doctor uses NVC with her patients to understand their needs. Her patients have complicated life-long conditions, such as Avascular necrosis of femur head (AVN) . These conditions tend to breed frustration and resentment with medical care providers. The doctor uses NVC to show a genuine interest in the patient while providing help with how they can enjoy their everyday life. This interest is felt in her patients, who express gratitude. In turn, the doctor feels energized and motivated, while experiencing an increased ability to see her patients holistically, as human beings defined by factors beyond their diagnoses.
3. NVC for maintaining international relations:
A person who works in a NGO used NVC during a presentation at refugee camp at Gaza in Palestine when one Of the listeners interrupted to call him a “murderer” (NGO worker, an American, was seen as a representative of his country, which supplies weapons to Israel). NGO worker used NVC to resist his impulse to defend himself and listen to the man. By listening, he learned that the man wanted what everyone else wants: a clean and safe place to live, quality education for his children, political freedom, and autonomy.
This listening had the effect of defusing the man’s anger. He began to see NGO worker as a fellow human, rather than an “American.” This exchange resulted in a dinner invitation for NGO worker at the man’s home.
Life changing tools for healthy society:
People who want different kinds of social change and people who resist social change are driven by what is important to them. At a deeper level, we refer to these in NVC as Universal Human Needs. Social institutions, systems, and structures are sets of strategies intended to meet needs. By connecting with each other at the level of needs we can see each other as human beings and understand each other’s deeper motivators. By separating the needs from the strategies we can together explore strategies of mutual benefit. We have many anecdotal stories of NVC practitioners turning enemies into friends through the process of empathy and honesty. Part of the trick of NVC skills when we’re applying them to positive social change is learning how to persist in challenging conversations. How do we sustain difficult conversations so that we can get through to the other side where there’s more connection, more mutual understanding, and an increase in trust and goodwill? Ultimately, what we’re doing with the powerful interpersonal skills that NVC gives us is we are strengthening community. Healthy community involves constructive and effective power-sharing. In life-alienated, life-disconnected communication we talk about power-over. In NVC we talk about power-with. We are much more powerful with power-with than with power-over. Besides working with people with different views and beliefs — another important question when engaging in NVC for positive social change is “How do we build our own network and our community of allies, so that we can have the support we need while we work toward having a greater positive impact. The problem with social change that is perpetuated by violence is that it is not sustainable. (There are other problems, such as those acting violently losing both integrity and allies when they justify their means with the ends they seek.)Those on the receiving end of violence will remember and resent it, and this by itself leads to a less stable society.When change is effected from a compassionate place, from a place in which everyone’s needs are valued — and when it is done via a process of inclusive, collaborative inquiry and conversation — we find that that co-created solutions are more durable. When there is both integrity and inclusion in a process, there will be less blow-back, foot-dragging, sabotage, or unnecessary drama.
